One of the biggest conflicts that I have been able to observe between parents and children is due to the most daily routines of the home such as cleaning the room, tidying up toys, brushing, grooming, doing homework, etc. We adults do all these activities automatically, all children, but our children must still learn to carry them out without resistance. For this, there are many households that put into practice the table of routines proposed by the Montessori method.
Why is this resistance or 'rebellion' due to the different daily tasks that have to be done? The answer is very easy: young children do not have the ability to perform activities automatically, despite the fact that they do them every day, since this requires a mental organization that they have not yet developed. And to get it, you must have a daily perpetual guidance from parents.
Besides, let's face it, none of us like to have things imposed on us as if they were our 'bosses'. So when a child is spoken to in an authoritarian and even threatening tone, they may '' rebel against the system '. Given this circumstance, what is the solution? Try to invite the little ones to connect with their routine.
María Montessori was perfectly aware of this involuntary difficulty on the part of children and the negative responses they provoked in their parents. Therefore, he attached significant importance to create visual tools that served as a reference so that the little ones could do things correctly. It is at this point that we have to talk about the Montessori routine table.
The routine table, to this day, continues to be an excellent material use by María Montessori. This consists of a series of simple images with children's designs that show in a clear and explanatory way, how the routine of each day should be, from when your child wakes up until he falls asleep. Also known as 'Routine Exhibitor'.
In this way, the little ones can be guided and anticipate what will follow after each activity, without the need to ask. This helps to a great extent to form responsibility, autonomy, capacity for retention and problem solving, memory and attention.
For example: If your child wants to go straight to play or watch television when he gets up or when he gets home from school, instead of scolding or punishing him, you invite him to review together the routine table for that day, since you are including it to be part of it.
On the wall near your child's bed, you must place a table (better if it is made of any natural material) and place a series of images that are presented as the routine display, among which are:
- At the beginning of the day: Wake up, wash your face, brush, get dressed, tidy up the bed, say hello to mom and dad, have breakfast, go to school (or do another activity depending on your class schedule).
- At the end of the day: Say hello to mom and dad, tidy up the books, check homework, take a bath, have dinner, save materials for the next day, etc.
These activities can be customized according to your habits and the age of your children.
For reference, you can take the images that we propose above, but you can also draw them yourself. In this way, you will get that the main character of the routine table is as similar as possible to your son or daughter and, therefore, you feel more identified with him or her. You can also involve your children in the design and creation of these while explaining their importance.
Of course, a key element for the routine table to work is the parental involvement Thus, cards alone will not create a satisfying routine for you and your children. It is important that you make them participate in the use of said table and even when you are placing the exhibitors in it, explaining its meaning as a representation of the day to day that will now follow.
But it is also important that you show firmness in getting your son or daughter to complete assigned tasks. So you can apply the system of consequences and rewards (congratulate when he complies and give him a consequence if he doesn't), as well as the negotiations to establish a positive balance between teaching responsibility and enforcing your role as a parent.
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