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5 tips to encourage effort in children


No matter how old children are, they need praise and encouragement to feel good about themselves and for their self-esteem and confidence to increase dramatically.

In order for children to feel how their effort is being rewarded, they will need to feel an incentive and so the motivation will also appear easily. This incentive does not have to be something material, far from it, since praise and goodwill are more than enough to encourage good behavior.

Children must learn to strive at any task, they must understand all the good that effort has to offer, savor challenges, and understand the value of persistence. Unfortunately, many parents see boys and girls in their children who avoid the effort and they complain about anything they do.

To prevent children from complaining about what they do, it is necessary to encourage effort, how? With the following tips:

1. Praise the behavior
When behavior is praised and a child is told what he likes about him, he will be able to know exactly what is expected of his attitude and he will also feel good about himself. It will be necessary to praise in a descriptive way, that is, tell him what exactly you like, for example: 'I really liked how you picked up your toys when you finished playing'. This way you will increase your self-esteem and you will know what good behavior is.

2. Give it the time it needs
Children need time to solve problems, you don't want them to do things faster than they can just because you're in a rush.

3. Help him at the beginning
No one is born learned and children need a guide in learning to avoid being frustrated with things. When he is doing a task it is necessary that you help him at the beginning to know what to do and that little by little you withdraw your help and that way he realizes that he is capable of doing things by himself.

4. Don't give orders, give suggestions
The suggestions will help the children to make an effort, on the other hand if you only give orders they will only resist doing the task. It is also better that sometimes you give alternatives so that they are able to choose the best option to make an effort.

For example, you can say to a child something like: 'Do you need help to do your homework or can you do it yourself?', And that will have a better response than if you say 'Go do your homework now or you don't play' .

5. Maintain reasonable expectations
Children innately want to please their parents, but you need to be patient and have reasonable expectations that reflect children's actual abilities and maybe a little more, but not too much. For the little ones to feel motivated and make an effort, they must be able to achieve what is proposed to them.

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