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Do you remember that song by Cecilia? In Dama, dama, a stanza spoke of a woman who "would be the bride at the wedding, the child at the christening, the dead at the burial."
This is applicable to many children (yes, adults too) who have a huge and inordinate desire for prominence. They need everyone's attention at all times, they need everyone's compliments, praise, looks and admiration. It is a tiring attitude in many ways. So what can we do with the children who always want to be the protagonists?
So are many children. If another has a wound, he is quick to show his which is bigger. If you are listening to the story of one of your children, he interrupts because he has something else more interesting to say. If one of them hugs, he gets in the way to hug more. Yes, it is an activity that is exhausting for parents and, why not, for children.
They want parental attention at all times and also, exclusively, doing what is possible so that they cannot speak on the phone, they cannot attend to a brother or they find it impossible to read a book. They will use tricks of all kinds: tears, crying, tantrums, pulling your clothes, your arm, directing your head towards them or saying more than 58 times: "Mom, Mom, Mom." They have enough patience to kill yours and get you to focus on them.
The funny thing is that, most of the cases, when you finally attend what he wanted, it was actually a trifle, a story that is being invented at that moment or some other trifle.
What can we do in cases like this? Let's look at these strategies to avoid excessively protagonist attitudes in children or the constant attempts to attract attention. Not only for us, but also for themselves and to avoid endless frustrations:
Help them overcome the selfish stage: the need for protagonism hides an unresolved selfishness. It is normal for children to go through a self-centered stage in early childhood, but from the age of 6, they are ready to put themselves in the place of the other, to control their impulses and respect others. If they have not done so, it is essential not to let them insist on this type of behavior and to spend time teaching them to share, to respect their turn and to be patient. How? Mainly by example and from a positive and firm attitude.
Teach him not to be envious: It is one of the most destructive emotions, because it can do a lot of harm to others and to oneself. To help your child overcome envy, avoid comparisons between children or friends. Dedicate individual time to each of your children, a time that only belongs to him and in which he feels heard and cared for. And, help him feel more confident in himself, a fundamental tool against envy.
Don't give in to tantrums: If your child is trying to get your attention and is not getting it, they may resort to yelling, crying, and tantrum. If you give in, your child will know how to get your attention at any moment.
Do not deny him affection: They are children who, due to the evolutionary moment they are in or the circumstances they live in, feel that they do not receive enough affection. It is not about constantly giving them kisses and hugs, but dedicating a little of your time each day to tell them how much you love them and how important they are to you. Affection is essential for good emotional development from childhood.
Pay attention to other signs: If the child accompanies these behaviors with peeing during the day or night, a setback in his learning or some other behavior that you do not know how to handle, do not be afraid to ask for help and consult a psychologist. Doing nothing will not change things.
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