Before children's sports you can be either a sports parent or an unsportsmanlike parent. We often make mistakes as parents, including adopting the wrong attitude towards the sport that our child plays.
Sport should always be a children's choice, not a parent's choice. And parents, in turn, must understand what their attitude and behavior should be in the sport of their child. We explain what attitude you should avoid in front of your child's sport.
We live in a society where overprotection prevails. Today's parents think that their child is the best, that they must always win because they deserve it ... and we forget that children are actually in a maturing process and that they must face victories, defeats, frustration ... to understand that in life, Goals are achieved with effort and many failed attempts.
Parents they should avoid above all this type of attitudes and behaviors that far from benefiting your child, they harm him, and a lot:
1. Frustrated parent. He is the typical father who pressures his son to do a certain sport because he actually likes it or in his childhood he would have liked to practice it professionally and could not do it. They are parents who project on their children the frustration that they carry as children and who put pressure on their child so much that it can lead to a rejection of the child towards that sport.
2. Parent coach. The father is constantly telling his son what to do, even if it is contradictory to what the coach tells him. This only causes tremendous confusion in the child, who in the end is pushed in two different directions and does not know who to listen to, his father or his coach.
3. Aggressive parent. Sport is itself a school of values, and the moment of a competition, the best 'blackboard' or stage to demonstrate what has been learned. We also know that the example of parents is paramount. In this way, when a parent behaves aggressively or violently in a match or competition, they are 'telling' their child that it is acceptable behavior. 'We are what our parents taught us when they did nothing' (Umberto Eco). That is to say, we eventually copy 'those examples that we see in our parents without their realizing it.
Sport teaches children to improve themselves, not to outperform others. In fact, humility should be an essential attitude of the athlete. So if a child knows that he is very good at a sport, explain that he should say so, but when no one is listening. The satisfaction must be personal. When the child does something well, it feels good. And your self-esteem improves.
What you must not do so as not to hinder your child's self-esteem:
- Put pressure on your child and demand too high a goal, as it will not arrive and will 'sink'.
- If when he doesn't do something right you tell your child that he has done it wrong, he will also sink.
What you should do to improve your self-esteem:
- Value his effort, congratulate him for the effort, so that he believes in himself.
- Value any small achievement.
Do not value the result, but the effort of your child. In fact, you will always appreciate the goal achieved after a great effort. This equals self esteem.
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